Redefining my American Dream

I have come to a very important realization in my life, the “American Dream” that was sold to us—as in society—decades ago is no longer relevant. Many of you may have already consciously known this, but I just figured it out. I figured it out the moment I found out that I will be starting a new chapter in my life sooner than I expected. Waaaay sooner than I expected.

This last Friday, as in the one that just passed, I gave my two weeks notice at work. The reason I emphasize when it happened is because I’m still processing what is about to transpire in my life. I’m still in a bit of a shock. I did something that I didn’t think myself confident enough to do.

May 13th will be my last day working my full-time job at AIG. I have worked here for four years, have brought two humans to life while working here, have met some of the most caring, supportive, and funny people here; to keep it short, working at AIG has been good to me. Very good to me. This isn’t to say that I desire to process applications, talk to frustrated agents, and fax documents all day. No, ma’am, I do not. It was while working here, though—with the help of my pregnancy with Little Nugget—that I discovered my love for pregnancy and birth. This was never a secret. If you ask anyone who knows me at work, I’m 99% sure that they could tell you what I’m passionate about.

So, if I’m leaving the security of a stable income and dropping all of my benefits, what will I be doing? It’s a simple answer, I will am following my dream. I am taking a leap of faith to wake up every day excited about what I do for a living. I am risking some comfort to start emerging in the community where I know I will make a positive impact one day.

To {finally} answer your question, I have taken on the Sponsorship Sales Executive position with Improving Birth, a non-profit organization set out to do exactly that, improve birth. I am over the moon with excitement for this new endeavor. I’ve never been more confident in my life, and no, not to the point of arrogance—ya’ll better snap me out of it if I do— because I am a strong believer in staying humble. One of my intentions in following my dream is to inspire, motivate, and support others dreaming, but not committing, to commit. I intend to be another example that dreams will never stop being dreams if no action is taken. (It took me at least three years to understand this.)

I am embracing my talents and putting them to use. I am giving myself time to grow in knowledge. I am nurturing my confidence to doubt myself less and believe in myself more. And, one of the best parts of giving it my all like this is that it’s not only a benefit to me, but also to my family.

Let me pause here. Before I go any further on the topic I’m currently on, I would like to address why my post is titled “Redefining my American Dream”. I briefly mentioned the realization I have come to in my opening, but would like to say more about it.

If you’ve read this far, thank you and I hope that you take something away from my words.

I was recently freed of the American Dream that I grew up chasing—graduating high school, going to college, getting a job within my field, marrying, having kids, buying a home, and installing a picket fence. I am celebrating the freedom I have to love whoever I want, have children whenever I want, and do whatever I want for a living. I am honoring that my home is where my family is whether it be a 600+ square foot apartment in a congested city or a 3 bedroom house in nature. I am no longer defining my success by the check off list that once made me feel confined to a 9 to 5 job.

My American Dream is more individualized now; my dream is still being shaped, but for now I know that I want my children to grow up being confident. Well, that’s vague, isn’t it? Let me be more specific. I dream that my children will be confident that their dreams are attainable as long as they work hard, embrace the obstacles, do good, respect life, and lead with love. I dream that they understand what perspective is and how to utilize it to step back and see the bigger picture. Things that have taken me years to learn is what I want them to grow up with.

Everything that is happening wouldn’t have been possible without my parents. I have come to fully appreciate the dream that my parents once had and were able to fulfill. I am a proud daughter of two immigrants, now citizens, who risked their lives to come to “the states” to make the opportunities that they didn’t have an option for their children. In valuing my parents’ hard work and dedication, I have taken it on to build on their dream.

This all feels so unreal. I am blessed to have found a lead towards my calling. I know that this is only the beginning of a new chapter, but it deserves as much of a celebration as the middle and the end. I’m excited to continue sharing my journey through this thing called motherhood life with you. I invite you to share yours to (hopefully) inspire and motivate others to do the same. We can all learn from each other, especially when support is involved.

I see myself growing right before my eyes. I am conscious. I see. I feel. I am doing.

Welcome to my journey. May we grow together. And remember, I’m cheering YOU on!

Cheers to new chapters!

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3 thoughts on “Redefining my American Dream

  1. I absolutely love this post and I’m so very happy for you! I am waiting for that moment to “click” for myself. That moment where I can figure out what/who I want to be when I grow up. It is hard to take that leap of faith and I applaud you for finding your dream and going for it. I wish you the best of luck!

    1. Sanibel, your words give me strength! Thank you very much for reading and sharing your thoughts. Nobody ever told me how difficult it could/would be to figure out what I wanted to be. Praying you get your “aha” moment soon! 💜💜

  2. I’m so proud, happy, and excited for you! Although we have yet to have to the pleasure of meeting in person I feel like I have a sense of who you are as a person. This is a huge step and not one to be taken lightly! Living your dream is what matters not one any one else says your dream should be! Many many congratulations and wishes and hopes of nothing but happiness and success on your new endeavor!

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