As some of you may know, I have decided to officially stay at home with my Nuggets—the cost of childcare was a luxury that we cannot afford at the moment.
I’ve been home with the Nuggets for about a week and I’ve realized what a privilege it was to have them watched by someone else. It was a privilege because while they were under someone else’s care I could keep our apartment tidy, schedule to do things at whatever time, do whatever I wanted, and just be me without having to be mom. As with all good things, this too had to come to an end. I can say that I’m at peace with myself knowing that I made the most of my alone time while it lasted.
As one good thing comes to an end, space is made for another to begin. Now that I can officially label myself as a “stay-at-home” mom, I’ve realized what a privilege it is to be my Nuggets’ primary caregiver…other than only on weeknights and weekends. I think I actually consider it an even bigger blessing to be home with them. I know that to some moms, it may be a no-brainer; if they could they’d stay home. However, I’ve known both types of moms—the ones that are career-driven and the ones that can’t see themselves ever working after children. Neither type is better or worse than the other. It simply comes down to what works for the mom and her family.
At the beginning of motherhood, I thought that the only thing I wanted was to stay home with Little Nugget. Then, my thoughts evolved to, “I don’t think I’d be a good stay-at-home mom,” which led to where I am now. The ebbs and flows of life, I tell you!
I’m cognizant of the fact that it takes a village to raise children, so here is my cry for help. Scratch that, I’m not crying, I just need feedback, suggestions, and support from moms who have experience with this aspect of motherhood. I’m learning to navigate this new, and somewhat unexpected, chapter of my life, and I don’t want to do it alone. I know that I don’t have to do it alone.
Although it’s a lot of work to watch my own kids, I appreciate almost every second of it. I say almost every second because well, it’s not easy at all. It’s hard. It’s hard to get anything done, whether it be housework or work that pays. Yes, I’m still attempting to work in between feeding picky eaters and negotiating nap time, which brings me to the point of this post. Stay-at-home and work-at-home moms, how do you manage your time? What helps you feel the most successful while home with your children? I need ideas, inspiration, motivation, and support.
I’m not complaining in any way. I feel absolutely grateful for this opportunity and the path I’ve journeyed on to get to this point. However, I want to hear about other’s experiences so that I can learn. Remember, when we share our experiences, we can learn from each other.
Thank you all for your support!
Cheers to having each other’s back!
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