Letting him lead

I’ve had this blog post sitting in my drafts. I considered not sharing it being that it’s not relevant to the now, and thought of waiting until this year’s holidays to update and publish it, but I found it important to have it as a reference for myself.

It feels like the holidays were months ago, when really, it hasn’t been two months since all the craziness. I’d love your feedback on our approach to the holidays and to hear how you celebrate with your family. (When I write “holidays” I mean any of them, not only Christmas.)

Josh and I aren’t “big” on celebrating holidays, those that know us might even add birthdays as well. Since moving in together — almost eight years ago — we’ve never decorated for a holiday including Christmas. It’s not that we’re against holidays, nor do we frown upon those who choose to go all out, it’s simply what works best for us. For example, storing decorations isn’t very practical for our attempt at a more minimalistic lifestyle, especially living in a small apartment. Some may see this as a boring or even sad approach to the holiday season, but there’s a method to our madness. Isn’t there always? At least for us there is.

Decorating for the holidays was easy to avoid for the first three years of Little Nugget’s life. He didn’t know the difference. However, 2016 was a little different. Little Nugget did ask for a Christmas tree last year. I think homeschooling him helped with the simplicity of his request. There were no requests for specific toys, Santa visits, or elaborate decorations because there weren’t outside influences. All he wanted was a Christmas tree, and for this we were grateful. Makes us sound like scrooges doesn’t it? Let me explain.

We don’t want our Nuggets’ definition of Christmas, or any holiday, to be defined by what is advertised on television, in Target toy magazines, or at a traditional school. We want our Nuggets’ understanding of any holiday to come from our family’s morals, values, and gratitude for each other above anything else. When Little Nugget asked for a Christmas tree, we packed ourselves in the car, drove to Home Depot, and gave Little Nugget the freedom to choose the tree he wanted. Like many, we went as a family … and this was the most important part.

I appreciate the way Josh put our approach to the holidays — we are allowing Little Nugget to lead how our family will celebrate. Well, in the meantime, until Z Nugget learns to voice her opinion. We will adjust and evolve our approach as the Nuggets grow and learn more about the world around them. We are grateful to have the ability to be the main influence in our Nuggets’ lives and look forward to the challenges and successes that we will encounter as we journey this path with them.

Cheers to having control of how we parent!

I appreciate that Little Nugget chose a rosemary bush as our Christmas tree because we now have something to invest our time in as a family. Our hope for this tree is to nurture it throughout the year and bring it indoors to admire when the appropriate time comes. We will not only celebrate the unity of our family with the reminder of the holiday later this year, but we will also see proof of it as our tree thrives.

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3 thoughts on “Letting him lead

  1. Oh my goodness I love this! Every family has their own traditions for any holiday and this is just as beautiful. There can be so much pressure to make it something special when it really doesn’t take much at all. Good on you!

    1. Sanibel, your comment means the world to me! Thank you!! I feel the pressure within my own family. It brings me comfort to hear that I’m not doing it wrong, even though I don’t feel like I am. It really doesn’t take much to make it special. My husband and I are simple people, and I want our children to be the same. I want to enable them to find the special within themselves before anything else.

      I appreciate you!!

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