Truth is…I thought I wanted to until I had two Nuggets of my own.
When I realized I was done childbearing, I felt a rush of emotions from both sides of the spectrum. I found that my mind and heart needed space to grieve. My body? Not so much. This may come as a surprise to some because if you followed my blog during my pregnancy with Z Nugget, you know that I love pregnancy.
I loved being pregnant, but recently had to come to terms with the fact that I do not want to raise anymore children. I also want the space—in other words, I want my body to myself—to do the physical activity I love to do without worrying how the child I’m growing will be affected.
Coming to this realization was good; however, it didn’t come without a downside. In addition to feeling liberated from having to wonder if I want more children or not, I also felt saddened by the idea that I will not have the beautiful pregnancy experience again. I had to address my sadness in order to feel at peace with myself.
I know there are many possibilities that are out of my control, but I am now confident in saying that I am a mother of two healthy and crazy Nuggets that I adore with all of my existence, and I don’t want any more. Two is my maximum for a healthy state of mind. A healthy me means my family will be well, and for this understanding, I am grateful.
I’m sure that I will receive the comment of, “But you’re still young,” many times in my future, but I feel like I’m in a good place knowing that my reproductive “needs” have been met.
Understanding this about myself has also brought me more respect to all the women out there. To the women who choose….
to never become pregnant
to terminate a pregnancy
to have only one child
or to have a dozen or more children…
I respect you, honor you, and don’t judge you for your decisions. No one will ever know what it is to walk in your shoes.
Cheers to learning about ourselves!