Truth is…all it takes it setting a date.
My heart is currently on fire, full of joy, and jumping with gratitude. Today, my “students”—plus Z Nugget—and I went on a field trip. The four of us met my friend and her two daughters at Descanso Gardens.
There have been many times that my mom-friends have suggested for us to meet up—with Nuggets or not—and instead of saying “yes”, I’d come up with an excuse that validated why I couldn’t. At the time, I didn’t know they were excuses because I genuinely believed I couldn’t travel with three children. The fact that one of the three children is not mine made me even more uneasy about the idea.
Last week, on a day full of fires, I text my friend who days before had suggested an outing. It was a desperate text letting her know I was losing my shit with the kids. We set a date for a week later, planned it the night before, and met up like it was something we did often. I couldn’t believe how easy it was. It was easy because all it took was a “yes”. All it took was for me to believe that I could do it and remember that I had done it before, not with three kids, but with two. I had survived adventures before, what would be so different this time?
Let me be clear that I have experience adventuring with my Nuggets, so planning for a day out with two four-year-olds and a toddler wasn’t out of the ordinary for me. I packed light, wise, and was (surprisingly) ready to roll on time. With a mind full of patience and ready to
tackle enjoy the day at the gardens, I had no expectations. I was simply looking to absorb as much oxygen from the outdoors as possible. I was excited to do what I do best, adventure-learning, or teaching rather.
I am so proud of myself, the kids, and my friend. There was no yelling, no fighting, no putting out fires. We walked, we talked, the kids held hands, hugged, and picked up a copious amount of sticks, pedals, and leaves. My friend and I watched over each other’s children and strollers while we took kids to the bathroom or ran off trying to rescue another from the pond. The kids made memories while us moms talked about our hopes for life, our past, our children’s names—while we gave ourselves the space to make our own memories.
I could go on and on about how amazing today was, even if it was only for a few hours, but some details are better left untold as it maintains the day special in my heart.
As I reflect on today, I realize that the most important thing I took away is that I need to stop overthinking and start believing in myself. (Another recurring theme?) Doing so will help me keep my sanity, strengthen my tribe, and provide better teaching moments to my “students”.
I look forward to saying “yes” to my friends more often. I look forward to utilizing the beautiful spaces around me to adventure-teach while making memories.
Cheers to the friends who care to grow with you!