Are you addicted to social media?

Are you addicted to social media and need a break or want to quit altogether but feel like you can’t?

This is a real thing. People are addicted to social media. You may not be, but many others around you are in one way or another. The more I find myself explaining to people why I walked away from social media, the more it makes me aware of how sucked in we are — we as in our society as well as we as individuals. People are amazed to learn that I could/would quit social media when I was such an “inspiration” on there.

(My intention here is not to talk shit about social media or its users. My intention is to start the conversation of where we are with it.)

When I explain to people why I quit, more often than not, I get one of these two responses, “I wish I could quit social media,” or “I’ve been wanting to take a break from social media.” Having a conversation with people about this topic never ceases to cause some sort of reflection in the person I am engaging with, and this is thrilling for me. It’s thrilling because I feel I am making a tiny contribution to bringing people back to the real world, back to the place of beauty, where even if there are bad things happening, there are good ones happening, too. There isn’t a slew of bad news or nasty memes degrading a group of people trying to jump out at me every other time I check my phone. When I check my phone now, I only see text messages or missed calls.

Social media addiction is a real thing and I want to help those who want a way out. I know what both sides feel like, and I want to stay on this greener pasture — I mean this metaphorically and literally.

If you resonate with any of this, I’d like to challenge you to make a memory this week for you and only you. Don’t document any of it. Enjoy the moment and be present with it. Be present with all of the emotions that come with it, even the negative ones like fighting yourself for wanting to take a picture or record a video. Let yourself feel. If you try this, let me know how it goes. (There is no failing. You accomplish something even if you don’t get through the moment without documenting it.)

Big Nugget

If you’d like to read more on my experience with unplugging from social media, I invite you to read the linked blog post I wrote for FitBottomedMamas.com.

 

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Quitting social media

As I briefly mentioned in my return post, I quit social media. It has been one of the best decisions of my life. I quit because I found myself being someone I didn’t want to be. Frankly, I was annoying to myself. Let me list out my character (while using social media) for you:

  • I would get irritated at my Nuggets for not allowing me to comment back to people or finish a post. I felt like my Nuggets were in the way of my social media usage.
  • I was on my phone all the time! Even when I was “hanging out” with my Nuggets.
  • I found myself making memories to share with others — more like show off to others — instead of for my family or myself.
  • I would get jealous of other people’s lives. I wanted what everyone else had. I would question what everyone else had that I didn’t. I was always comparing myself to others.
  • I would get annoyed by people I didn’t know because they had more likes or comments than me.
  • Doing simple things like making a smoothie would take me three times as long because I had to document it all for people to see.
  • I was compromising my privacy for attention.
  • The list could go on.

I got lost in the virtual world, and I stopped living in the physical world. My family, the people closest to me, were getting the empty, irritated version of me because I was putting the best of me out there hoping to get attention.

(I’ll share with you how being unplugged has helped me grow stronger, love harder, and be better at being present in another post.)

My intention is not to make this a generalization of all social media users. I am cognizant that there are many different categories of users, I just happened to be leaning more towards the addicted type. This is all only me sharing my experience, reflections, and realizations.

I’m grateful that I decided to quit. I am grateful that cold-turkey worked for me.

What kind of social media user are you?

Big Nugget

Dear blog

I’m still here. I think about you often; however, I feel numb towards you and my “love” for writing. I think I’ve lost myself in motherhood. I always thought I’d never be one of those stay-at-home moms that only took care of their children. I always thought I’d be nothing but grateful for being able to see my children grow on a daily basis instead of only after I came home from my corporate job. Well, now I feel embarrassed because I’m eating my words. Although I do more than only take care of my Nuggets (plus my niece) and am grateful for all the time I get with them, I find myself with no desire to do anything else and with no idea of who I am.

Who am I? What do I like? What do I want to do with my life? These are questions that I ask myself often, but have not found a clear answer to.

I try to stay grounded. I attempt finding clarity through the things that used to bring me peace and answers, but my heart isn’t receiving the transmissions. I want to believe that I’m shedding and growing into new skin, but could it be my occasionally faulty mental health blurring my thoughts, numbing my feelings, and confusing my being? Whatever it may be, I hold on to the hope that it’s all for the best for me and my family.

I think the end to the “cheers” is here and the beginning to the transmissions has come. I need to figure myself out.

Through the help of this post, I transmit that my internal emotions are not aligned, nor have they ever been.

Big Nugget

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Life looks different through a lens. It looks easier, brighter, and magical. I am grateful for everything I have and everything I’ve been through. My life is a breeze compared to many. I must remember this.