Social Media Whores

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I have been off of social media (mainly Facebook and Instagram) now for about 4 months going on 5.  At first, I deactivated because it had started to become a place where people vent or complain (which is incredibly annoying; do something about your situation if you don’t like it!).  It has also become this avenue for which people just argue about everything (politics, personal problems, airing out dirty laundry, etc.), at least in my eyes.  Then I really began to realize that without Facebook and Instagram in my life, there was some pressure lifted off of my back.  I know it sounds a little strange, but let me explain…

Social media was meant to help keep in touch with friends and family that live out of town and you don’t get to see everyday.  However, it has kind of become this venue to show off to those people and say “say, hey look at what I am doing…” or “like my posts, I am awesome…”.  Don’t act like you don’t think that way; I am insanely guilty of it too.  To be honest most of my posts are to make people jealous.  I think it’s important to enjoy yourself, while letting other people know about it.

I have always been pretty confident in myself and comfortable in my own skin, but when it came to social media, I felt like I was indirectly trying to top my own friends, if that makes any sense at all.  It was like this false competition that really wins you nothing.  On top of that, I would subconsciously remember who “liked” my posts.  Because of this, I would “like” theirs back.  It became this weird fucking cycle of bullshit that didn’t actually matter.  AND now I am glued to my phone like a fucking moron, “liking” a bunch of shit I don’t actually like because I feel obligated to like my friends shit, due to them liking my pointless garbage.  I am laughing out loud right now at how ridiculous this all sounds.

The moment I decided that enough was enough, came when a friend of mine asked me why I didn’t “like” his/her post (I am being vague on purpose).  That was it.  I couldn’t do it anymore.  At that point, this person didn’t care about my friendship.  This person cared about the “likes”, which are FUCKING MEANINGLESS.  Yes, there are people out there like this and they suck.  Suck so bad, that they keep tabs on whether you “like” their post or not.  It’s really insane when you think about it.

I would also like to point out that the excessive selfie movement really bothers me (another reason I am off of social media).  It just seems very self-absorbed and has the feel of a person fishing for an ego boost.  Don’t get me wrong, women can post 1 or 2 every now and then, but holy shit, every single day?!  We get it, you like when your friends call you pretty.  Also, for my fellow men out there, there are no circumstances where you should post a selfie.  Like ever.  Here are a few rules I have on the selfie game for men:

1) It is not a selfie if you are not holding the phone and someone else is taking the picture.

2) It is not a selfie if another person is in the picture because you’re not by yourself.  This is a self-taken portrait.

3) Self-taken portraits with women are acceptable.

4) Self-taken portraits with men are not.  Unless…

5) The self-taken portrait is with a celebrity or you’re with family member in a place you’ve never been and there is no outside party available to take the photo.

Before people get worked up about what I am saying, I would just like to point out that humans can be awful beings.  I am not being negative; I am just stating facts.  Why do I believe this?  I created an Instagram for my dog and she is more popular than most of my friends and myself.  She receives more “likes”, has a ton of followers, and she doesn’t even speak any human language.  I am not jealous at all.  She is a wonderful being and deserves all of the attention.  Hell, if more people were like her, this world would be a better place.  She is always happy to see me and any other person.  Like beyond excited.  She knows what she wants to eat (which is the same shit every single day and LOVES it), she doesn’t mind going outside to play or staying in to sleep, and most importantly, even though she is a female dog, she doesn’t bitch about anything.  I think that is why she is so popular in the social media world.

All in all, I do believe social media does have its value.  I remember only a few birthdays, so having that tool is kind of nice, and I forget names sometimes, so it helps with that too.  It can provide news, but sometimes it is unwanted news.  Other than that, I kind of view it as a headache.  I dislike the fact that employers can look you up and judge you without even knowing whom you are.  I dislike that people get offended so easily with it… for example: not accepting friend requests right away, not following back, not “liking” a post.

The only social media I use, which kind of aren’t social media platforms, to me anyway, are Twitter (for news) and sometimes snapchat because posts disappear and you can’t “like” anything on there.  In the meantime, I will only be active on the other social media outlets when I am on vacation.  Once vacation is over, you better believe it is going to be deactivated once again.  Otherwise, I prefer e-mail, text message, or phone call (FaceTime included).  I like being straight and to the point.  It is easier that way and I actually enjoy a real conversation, not someone acknowledging my worthless post with a “like”.

-Ricky Congo


It’s really hard to get a normal picture of me. -Big Nugget


Bills and money and trades, oh my!

I woke up Monday feeling off. My shoulders were tight and heavy. My breath was short and shallow. My thoughts were crammed in my head causing me anxiety. The past me would have had a mental breakdown with all of this. I would have gone into hyper mode and I would have lost it. (Just ask Josh.)

I am proud to say that I reached out to a couple of friends and my sister. I was honest about what is going on in my life and asked for their presence. All I wanted was an ear, but I got much more than that. It turns out that they were feeling the exact same way, but for their own reasons.

Because I gave myself the space to be vulnerable, I was able to laugh off some of the tension and have a better week. By being vulnerable and honest about how overwhelmed I was feeling, I learned that I am not alone. Alone in what? In this thing called life.

In reaching out for help, I learned that we are all feeling overwhelmed. We’re all battling something, whether it’s something big or small. So, with that being said, I want to congratulate us for making it through another week! Yes, us.

For me, making it through another week means having enough to pay the week’s bills with the money we are able to bring in while using our skills to trade for other needs.* Hence, the title. Notice how none of my weekly ‘accomplishments’ sound extravagant. To me, this is the definition of “being grateful for the small things.” (A Negative Nancy might put it as barely getting by.) I’m curious to see what making it through a week looks like for you. (If you’d like to share, I’d love to read what your weekly, or even daily, accomplishments are.) It seems that people like to know that they aren’t alone, so in sharing, you might actually be helping someone who needs the help.

I often joke that I feel better when I hear that other people are miserable too. Honestly, I don’t want to be the only overwhelmed one while everyone else “has their s-h-i-t together”. I don’t want to be left behind. No one likes to feel left out. In sharing my experiences and vulnerabilities, I intend to not make anyone feel left behind. Isn’t it better together anyways?

Now that I am conscious about how important it is to be vulnerable, I hope to show you it’s alright for you to be vulnerable too.** I kid you not, my week became happier the moment I decided to be vulnerable and stop wearing the cape.

The reason I mention wearing a cape is because I heard a radio interview with actor Tyler Hoechlin—he plays Superman on the show Supergirl—and one of the questions he was asked was in regards to the cape he wears while playing Superman. He stated that the cape weighs about 20 pounds. Imagine! Who would want to wear a 20 pound cape all the time?? Not me! Does this make me any less strong? Negative. It makes me human just like Clark Kent, and guess what? You’re human too, so give vulnerability a chance. (Sounds like a bumper sticker.)

I hope that my words—or someone else’s words, hoping that people open up and share—bring comfort to at least one person. I hope that at least one of you is inspired to experience the liberating feeling that comes with being vulnerable. If you need someone to hold space for you, please reach out to me!

Cheers to being vulnerable!

Vulnerability makes for funny pictures. Yup, that’s my shoe flying behind me.

*I highly recommend trading services with other people. One of the greatest things about our society today is that we are all entrepreneurs of some sort and can use each other’s help. For example, I can take your family portraits in exchange of your babysitting services. Brilliant isn’t it?
**To learn more about vulnerability, I highly recommend Dr. Brené Brown’s TED talk, “The power of vulnerability”

20 Mule Team Borax

**The following is my personal opinion. 20 Mule Team is not paying me for this review.**

Product description/details:
This review is on 20 Mule Team Borax. I’ve had this post in mind for some time now. The reason it took me so long to put it together was because I didn’t know how to communicate my deep appreciation for this naturally occurring compound. (I obviously decided on doing it as a review.) Yes, you heard right. I am reviewing a compound that you can find deposited somewhere in a seasonal lake.

Who are they (the company)?
The company that makes the most popular (in my opinion) borax on the market is 20 Mule Team. I don’t know much about this company other than borax is the only product it sells. I also noticed on the website that 20 Mule Team is part of the Dial Corporation, which is now the Henkel Corporation.

(They do have the company’s history on the website if you’d like to read more about it.)

Why use them (the company)?
Although I don’t know much about the actual company, I’d still recommend using the borax they sell because I am 110% satisfied with their product. I also appreciate that they provide informational content for potential, new, and existing customers on their product and website. Their website has a designated “Uses” section where they have short videos showing you the many uses of borax.

How did I hear about them (the company)?
I heard about 20 Mule Team from the first box of borax that we bought about four years ago. We were led to borax when we found out we were pregnant with Little Nugget.

In finding out we were going to have a baby, Josh and I—pretty much instantly—decided to ditch all of our toxic household cleaners and switch to greener/safer cleaners. (Babies will do that to you.) We started with our laundry detergent; we began making our own. One of the ingredients in the detergent was borax.

It wasn’t until a couple years after we started making our own detergent that I paid attention to the 20 Mule Team Borax box. The packaging itself is an informational packet. Reading the entire box inspired me to begin using borax to clean things that were difficult to clean with solutions like vinegar and water.

How often do I use this product?
I use borax to clean on a weekly basis. Alright alright, I’ll be honest. I wish I had time to deep clean on a weekly basis. (On a good week, I will.) I use the borax when I deep clean. What I love about using borax is that it doesn’t seem like I’m “deep” cleaning at all. I found that using borax doesn’t require so much elbow grease and I’m talking about cleaning my stovetop, bathroom and kitchen sinks, glass shower doors, bath tub, and toilet bowl. All the places that get greasy, slimy, and just plain yucky. If you’re a parent, I’m sure you know about the cooking oils and hard water grime and other things that aren’t necessary for me to mention.

To make sure I answered the question…I’ve been using borax on a biweekly basis for four years now.

Product pros:

  • Borax is a natural mineral that is not toxic. (However, it should still be kept away from children, and first aid is still required/recommended if borax makes contact with eyes or if it is ingested.)
  • It cleans the hardest grime with very little elbow grease (in comparison to other household cleaners).
  • A box of borax lasts me about a year. I’ve bought four boxes in four years. A little bit of borax goes a long way.
  • I appreciate that it easily dissolves in water and that it works on its own. I love that I can just pull out the box, pour, and clean.
  • I also love that it works instantly. I know that in their bathroom cleaner video, 20 Mule Team instructs the watcher to leave the toilet bowl soaking for 30 minutes, but I always just pour the borax on the surface I’m cleaning—or a sponge—and scrub away.
  • Borax is inexpensive! You can buy a box of borax for under $4.
  • Because its use is so versatile and it cleans so many things, we don’t have to have multiple cleaners. We save space by using borax.

Product cons:

  • The only thing I have to complain about is the box. I wish the opening of the box could be closed after being opened.

Suggestions for the product (if any):
My only suggestion would be for the 20 Mule Team to improve the opening of the packaging. The perforated flap that has to be pressed in to open the box sometimes gets stuck inside making it difficult for the borax to come out, especially when the borax clumps up in sizes bigger than the opening.

Company contact/website:
In clicking the “contact us” link on the 20 Mule Team website, it sent me to Henkel North America’s website. I did a general search to find information on Henkel’s website regarding 20 Mule Team Borax, but nothing came up. The only thing I could find was a phone number for “laundry products”—800-457-8739. In addition to the phone number, they also have a contact form that you can fill out and submit on their page.

Where can you purchase this company’s products?
You can purchase 20 Mule Team Borax at any large chain store like Target, Walmart, Rite Aid, Walgreens, and Ace Hardware.

Do you have any feedback?
Do you have any comments, questions, or concerns about what I wrote above? Please feel free to comment below or email me directly at I would love to hear from you.