Much like when you’ve had one too many drinks, labor can make you feel like you have no control over your body, but really, you do have control. Remember it’s your body, you have grown this baby and you will deliver this baby. No one can do it for you. Also, remember that knowledge is power and the more you educate yourself on the natural process of childbirth, the more you’ll understand what’s happening when the moment comes—no matter the method your nugget is born.
I was home alone with my Nuggets. I knew it was going to be a late work day for Josh (shameless plugin: I am grateful for how hard he works for us) so I bathed the Nuggets as soon as we got home. As the Nuggets and I were in our vanity area getting dressed, the closet door was open and Little Nugget saw a bag of pads — as in the feminine hygiene product — and asked, “Mom, what are those?”
I will admit that I love when Little Nugget asks questions because I see it as a door being opened for me to influence his learning, and it is satisfying for me to know that I am one of the biggest influences in his life. I don’t take my role as educator lightly and do my best to provide Little Nugget with the most accurate information while keeping his age in mind.
The conversation that followed from Little Nugget’s question went like this …
Me: “Those are pads, papa.”
LN: “What are pads?”
Me: “Pads are things women use.”
LN: “Why do women use them for?” (I love the way he constructs his sentences. I’m going to miss correcting his grammar.)
Me: “Women use them once a month when their uteruses bleed.”
LN: “Oh! So you used pads when Zion was born?” (I love seeing his light bulb turn on.)
Me: “Yes, papa, I actually did use pads when Zion was born. You have a good memory and that was a great observation.”
The conversation was short yet informative enough to satisfy Little Nugget’s need to know more. At least, I can only think it was satisfying for him because Little Nugget put the pads back where he got them from and continued on with his evening.
It was difficult to restrain myself from making a big deal about the conversation, but I knew that celebrating the conversation within myself (and now on my blog) would be best to keep the normalcy intact, especially because of what he learned about.
These are some of the moments that make me the proudest. Little Nugget’s curiosity helps fulfill my want and need to equip my children with information, lessons, and experiences that will help make them conscious beings. I am looking forward to the questions Little Nugget will ask as he becomes older, and I am also up for the challenge as I know they will not all be as easy as describing what pads are.
Cheers to keeping a light heart!
The following can help anyone as everyone lives with some level of stress; however, I write this with moms and moms-to-be in mind and close to my heart because, well, I love pregnancy and believe that it can be used as a gateway to learning about ourselves.
Stress is a huge part of our daily lives. For some of us, being stress-free comes natural — for the most part, you’re born like this if it does — but for the majority of us, it takes practice. Daily practice. For me, it’s not easy and has never been easy. I have an extensive relationship with depression and anxiety, and if I’ve learned anything from the years of being in this relationship, simply writing about practicing to calm down leaves me in the same position I started in, stressed out.
If you’re pregnant, it is crazy how easy it is to feel stressed. The hormones. The changes. Add creating a child and attempting to wrap your brain around the fact that you’re going to be responsible for another human being plus you … this is like the icing on the stress cake whether or not it’s a planned pregnancy. I completely “get it”. You are not alone. Let me say that again because it seems like I can’t hear that enough when I’m stressed, you are not alone!
Advising someone to practice stress-relief is not enough. It reminds me of when I look up a word in the dictionary and the word is part of the definition, it is frustrating and causes more questions! I wish to share with you one way you could practice stress-relieving tactics every day without overwhelming yourself with having to remember to practice.
What you will need:
- An index card
- A pen
- A marker
What to do:
- With the pen, make a list of 3-5 actions that you can do to relax on one side of the index card. They can be as simple as breathing, closing your eyes, or stretching.
- Review your list and make sure that at least one of the actions can be done anywhere. If you don’t have one that can be done anywhere, think of one and write it down.
- From the actions you’ve written down, choose one and write it on the blank side of the index card with the marker.
- Place the index card somewhere out of sight, but in a place that you’ll randomly see daily — marker side facing up. Examples of where to store the card: passenger seat of your car, in your kitchen’s silverware drawer, next to your television’s remote control, near the “on” button of your computer.
- Whenever you come across the index card, practice the action — stressed or not. I recommend to occasionally pick up the index card and look at the pen-written side. When you do, try and be grateful that you have options. Gratitude changes perspective.
This is only one idea of how to practice relieving stress. I am cognizant that this one way will not work for everyone. I understand everyone has different needs. There are many more ways, and I’ll make sure to share them as I discover them.
I know it can be overwhelming, but remember that you aren’t alone and there is a community out there waiting to welcome you and provide you support. All it takes it reaching out for help. I am here for you. I see you and honor your space.
Cheers to helping each other cut stress out of our lives!
I don’t know how I forgot to share my first published piece over at Fit Bottomed Mamas. Oh yeah, life happened and continues happening.
I was put in connection with one of the main women that run Fit Bottomed Girls (word up to my girl Tish!) and was given the opportunity to write for their sister website, Fit Bottomed Mamas. FBM’s mission resonated with me and inspired me to begin writing pretty much instantly. I quickly felt at home as I submitted my first piece and received great feedback for my honest words. The inspiration continued.
When I received notification that my first post had been published, I felt like I was on top of the world. I felt recognized as not only a contributing writer, but also a human being who had some knowledge to share. Let me restate that, it’s not even so much knowledge that I’m trying to share, it’s simply my experiences that I learn from that I want others to experience with me. I try and stay cognizant that what works for me is not going to work for everyone else. I guess that’s why I attempt to keep it light-hearted and personal.
We all have a different normal, and I intend to shine a light on my normal to remind others that we don’t have to meet anyone’s expectations. Only I know what works best for my family and me. It’s all right to be different in more than one way. I’m the captain of my ship and I intend to continue running it the way I know how. I hope that my experiences help inspire you to do the same.
Please show Fit Bottomed Mamas and me some support by visiting my first post, “How Public Transportation Can Help You Consciously Parent”.
I am grateful for the opportunity to contribute to the wonderful space FBM provides and for the people who continue believing in my ability to share my story.
Cheers to opportunities that inspire us!